The man is a pattern, an image of a separate consciousness' attention moving on the fabric of existence. Each one is unique. When the two meet, these patterns superimpose one over another: slide through in some places, cross in others. And in places where they cross the resonating points appear, the new worlds.
The spaces of co-creation, of mixing up.
By studying the pattern of the other, by watching the movement of their consciousness we include what we see in ourselves, we grow more complex, expand and deepen. We open new spaces for living and creating. We develop each over, grow more complex, discover new sides to ourselves and polish them.
What moves us, what makes us study the other? Love.
This is unavailable for the narcissistic ego. That's why the narcissist is doomed to be narrow and foolish. Which is a pity.
Love. It will make you smarter.
1 Corinthians 13 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.